Write Brilliant


Oh, if only you knew…


Write the name you’ve called yourself for far too long on the stone, then leave them at the altar.

In the darkness, we penned our words.

Stones pile high.

The secret she can't tell you...


The secret names we spoke over ourselves. Too many times to count. Titles that took a tall toll.

Lori Wilhite grounds us in the truth that we have been given a new name.

“Whoever has ears, let them hear what the Spirit says to the churches. To the one who is victorious, I will give some of the hidden manna. I will also give that person a white stone with a new name written on it, known only to the one who receives it.” – Revelations 2:17

Hearts melt. Souls revive. Love unleashes.

I linger to hold the rocks. Caressing the words these women speak over themselves.

Maybe you recognize one as a label you’ve given yourself.


Oh, if only you knew…

The cost of darkness you speak over yourself. The heavy levy of untruths you believe. The toll on your relationships, your marriage, your children, your lives.

Oh, if only you knew…

Christ gives you a new name. Jesus calls us…


Oh, if only you knew…

But it’s not just you.

If you could hear and see the words of the women around you speak over themselves, you’d melt with compassion, kindness, affirmation, generosity.

Oh, if only you knew…

The women who had written these words. These were moms and daughters and grandmothers and neighbors and friends. But all they all shared a commonality.

Oh, if only you knew…

These were written by pastor’s wives. Women in ministry. Leaders in churches around the globe.

Oh, if only you knew…

She isn’t immune.

It’s far too easy to believe that your pastor’s wife, those women on your church staff, well that they live above it all…

perfect lives. perfect marriages. perfect children.

Oh, if only you knew…

The breathtaking leaders wrestle with the same doubts and insecurities and fears you do.

Oh, if only you knew… the difference you can make.

The month we’ve been in, October, is National Pastor’s Appreciation Month—a season of giving and encouraging church leaders. I’ve given ideas on how to love your pastor before, but this year…

Oh, if only you knew…

Will you cheer her on? Tell her what she does so well.

Shower her with gifts. Flood her inbox and post office box with gift cards to a favorite clothing store, a massage, a restaurant. Ask her where she would love to have a gift card to enjoy? Bless her socks off.

Oh, if only you knew.

The difference you’ll make. The strength you give her. The hope you’ll infuse her with. Your prayers, your gifts will help her see her true name.

(BTW: These pictures came from my time at the Leading and Loving It Re:Treat, a powerful gathering of more than 800 pastors wives and women in ministry hosted by Lori Wilhite and Brandi Wilson. I was in such awe of the Re:Treat, I can’t wait to attend next year. After all, I recently celebrated my one-year anniversary as a pastor’s wife). Check out Leading & Loving It—I can’t rave enough.)

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