This week we’re giving away THREE copies of my dear friend, Ted Cunningham‘s book, Fun Loving You. Ted is the founding pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church in Branson, Missouri. He is a graduate of Liberty University and Dallas Theological Seminary. Ted and his wife, Amy, have been married for 15 years and live in Branson, MO with their two children, Corynn and Carson. Ted is also the author of Trophy Child and Young and In Love and co-author of four books with bestselling author, Dr. Gary Smalley, including: The Language of Sex; From Anger to Intimacy; Great Parents, Lousy Lovers and As Long as We Both Shall Live.
I recently had the chance to ask Ted a few questions about his book:
Margaret: For readers who aren’t familiar with the book, what is the main idea?
Ted: Outdated. Boring. Preachy. Feminine. Those four words describe the approach most men fear from marriage resources, conferences and sermons. Somehow marriage ministry in the church today has lost the Ecclesiastes 9:9 message: “Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.” You do not need to choose between life and a wife. You can enjoy both at the same time.
This book is a practical read with hundreds of questions, fill-in-the-blanks and conversation starters to help you and your spouse laugh, date, and enjoy life together. I refuse to accept the message that says, “God gave you your spouse to beat you down and suck the life out of you so you can be more like Jesus.” God did not give you your spouse to be the grind. He gave you your spouse to join you on your journey through the grind.
What were the biggest challenges or struggles during the writing process?
My greatest struggle in writing is translating humor into print. For this reason, I write out loud. Comedy and humor have so much to do with body language, tone and pace. It’s hard to do that for the reader. I also keep in mind that what is funny to me, may not be funny to you. That’s why my wife, Amy, is my first and primary editor. She has no problem telling me when something is harsh or dry.
What do you hope will happen in the reader’s heart and mind after they finish with the book?
Years ago my counselor friend said to me, “Ted, sometimes I think couples make it harder than it needs to be.” I agree. I want couples to lighten up, get unstuck in the grind and have a blast together. The ultimate goal of the book is to increase marital satisfaction and lower the divorce rate, one couple at a time!
What 3 books have most impacted your life and ministry (besides the Bible)?
What’s So Amazing About Grace (Yancey) – This book came to me 15 years ago at a time in my life when I needed rescuing from legalism.
The Purpose Driven Church (Warren) – I was 22 when I first read this book and it completely changed my motives and strategies for leading in the church.
Speaking Secrets of the Masters – Gary Smalley had me read this book years ago and it changed the way I teach.
Check out the trailer for, Fun Loving You:
To win a copy of Ted’s book, enter a comment on the original blog post below. Winners will be selected and notified on Friday!
Congratulations to the winners: Josh, JR, Elisa Gray
What’s your secret to a beautiful marriage?