Why Vulnerability is So Hard

All of life is vulnerable. All of love is vulnerable. All of faith is vulnerable.

Yet most of us scamper from vulnerability at the mere thought of letting our guard down.

Much of my life has been spent sprinting from vulnerability. Sometimes I wonder why. Perhaps the cause can be attributed to the cruel words spoken on the elementary school playground, the scarring remarks heard during those gawky years of junior high, or that first time I confessed my love for a boy and he responded, “That’s nice.”

Perhaps something deeper is at work. Continue Reading...

7 Signs You’ve Made It As An Author

"Perrier with sprig of parsley, please."

Ah yes, people think the life of an author is all glitz and glamor. They have no idea. The private jets. The Bentleys. The New York photo shoots. The summer house in France.

Oh wait, that’s someone else’s life.

Here’s a behind-the-scenes look of what it’s like to be a writer and 7 signs you’ve made it as an author:
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What’s Your Leadership Made Of—Steel or Straw?

“Do you limp?”

The inquiry caught me off guard. Popular author Gary Smalley and his team were peppering me with questions, determining if I was the best candidate to collaborate on his next project.

“Do you limp?” his mentoree, Ted Cunningham, pressed again, determined to discover if I’d experienced adversity or hardship.

“You have no idea,” I answered.

That conversation, which took place more than six years ago, still echoes in my mind. Gary Smalley, Ted Cunningham, and I have worked on more than a half-dozen projects together, but I’ve never forgotten the issue they raised that day.

Do you limp? remains a timeless question among those in leadership. It’s the gentle way of asking:

Can we survive in a foxhole together?

Are you going to buckle under pressure?  

Have you been tested?

Are you made of steel or straw? Continue Reading...

One Simple Act that Can Change Your Day, Your Year, Your Life

My stomach plunged when I looked in the empty bag. My laptop gone.

How had I allowed this to happen? Again? Continue Reading...

What To Do When God Says No

Margaret —  April 20, 2015 — 18 Comments

What To Do When God Says No

The Gospel of Mark writer is a master of word economy. Popping verbs. Sizzling accounts. Rampant pacing. In his opening chapter, he omits details of Jesus baptism and temptation, and splices two events side by side in a handful of startling sentences.

With cool water droplets streaming down Jesus’ face, Mark 1:11-12 records: Continue Reading...