The Biggest Mistake of Caregivers

Margaret —  December 19, 2014 — 2 Comments

Margaret and Leif Oines

My husband, Leif, never imagined after a decade of marriage that he’d wake up and find his role had shifted from spouse to caregiver.

In the wake of a difficult diagnosis, he spent long hours driving me to hundreds of doctors’ appointments, watched me endure brutal medical treatments, and took over countless everyday tasks when I could no longer care for myself.

Leif has been my rock through the past painful 15 months. But, as any caregiver understands, it hasn’t come without a price. You’ll catch glimpses of this in the Fight Back With Joy and Bible study releasing January 6. Pre-order your copy today and receive some awesome gifts.

I asked Leif to share a bit of his wisdom: Continue Reading...

The One Article You Can’t Afford Not to Read: Joy Warrior Kay Warren Asks, “Stop Sending Cheery Christmas Cards”

It was never the title she would have chosen for her op-ed in Christianity Today. The titling alone created an uproar.

People who misunderstood.

People who never read the rich, insightful piece.

People who dolloped criticism rather than compassion.

Stop Sending Cheery Christmas Cards” isn’t opposed to Christmas cards at all. In fact, my fellow joy warrior, is quite supportive of them. Tucked into her tender, well-written post resides a message that none of us can afford to miss this holiday season. Continue Reading...

What to Say When You Don’t Know What to Say

Someone you know receives dreaded news. A diagnosis. A divorce. Unemployment. A major loss.

You may feel ill prepared and unequipped to enter into someone’s crisis. You tell yourself you don’t know the person that well. You count up the months and years since you lost touch. It feels strange, even foreign, to reach out now. You may even second-guess if it’s appropriate. Someone else will take care of it. What will the person or their family think?

The reasons to remain silent pile high until you reach the ultimate:

“I don’t know what to say.”

Saying nothing seems better than saying the wrong thing. Or is it? Continue Reading...

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Rabbi Evan Moffic is the spiritual leader of Congregation Solel in suburban Chicago. He blogs at and the Huffington Post. Author of Wisdom for People of All Faiths, his next book What Every Christian Needs to Know about Passoveris available February 2015 from Abingdon Press.

3 Ways Christians Can Celebrate Hanukkah

by Rabbi Evan Moffic

Two thousand years ago a small group of pious Jews proved might does not always make right, and miracles can happen. That group—known as the Maccabees—became part of Jewish tradition, and we celebrate their story every year on the holiday of Hanukkah.

Christians may know about Hanukkah simply by its proximity to Christmas. It’s the other big December holiday with lights and presents. Yet, Hanukkah contains deep spiritual messages, and ones meaningful not only for Jews.

As a rabbi who writes about Jewish wisdom for Christians, I have seen the ways these messages can resonate and enrich our experience of faith, holidays and one another. Here are three of them: Continue Reading...